This thing called "Dating "

Seated before us in a conference, were four wonderful couples who shared with us how God led them to their partner. I sat and listened to them all, but couldn't hear the word "date or dating." All were led by God by one way or the other, and God spoke to each of them and their partners in confirmation. Who says dating is compulsory? Who says you can't get married without dating? Please give me a break and let's face reality.
Dating may not be a sin depending on the activities involved during that period, but how many of us are upholding purity in this dating times? How many of us avoid kissing, romancing and sex during dating.
Even when sex is not involved, we kiss and touch what we ought not to touch. We practice oral sex, anal sex, masturbate before each other, get naked before each other etc.
Even when our partner is far away, we indulge in phone sex, we discuss erotic issues that rekindle the fire of lust and sexual urge in us. The urge greatly increase that some of us don't mind ending up in the lap of prostitutes, yes, even some girls don't mind seducing guys into sleeping with them. Is this the kind of dating you take part in?
If so, then you are already going astray, and it will only take the grace of God for you to be delivered from that sexual immorality you indulge in.

Dating may bring to you an opportunity to study and learn about someone, but I tell you the truth, it doesn't always give you what you wanted. "I thought he was a nice guy" is often the statement I hear many young ladies say, even the guys too will complain using similar statement. During dating, everybody is at his/her best, they try not to offend you, they try to hide some secret things about their life. Have you tried to visit them in difficult times? Have you tried to find out from friends about their lifestyle? About their character, do they treat their siblings the same way they treat you. Tell yourself the truth, you who calls yourself a Christian, have you not been missing evening services because of him/her, haven't your bible reading dropped since you met them? About your prayer life? Do you still pray as before? Dating becomes a sin when you indulge in things you cannot do before your parents or public, dating is also a sin if it has taking the place of God in your life.
Guys, when you tell a lady you want to date her, what do you actually mean? Are you saying you want to know more about her, see if you both can build a godly relationship that will lead to marriage? Or you actually in your mind mean a different thing like, ''I want to see how beautiful she is when her clothes are off her, I want to see if she is good in bed, I want to catch fun with her and while away time, before getting the real person''?
Ladies, when you accept a guy for dating, what are your reasons for acceptance? Are you doing it for fun sake?
Are you doing it because you want to get some financial help from him? Or you just want to pose with him before friends? Many Guys treat ladies the way they like this days, because most ladies don't actually know what they want in a relationship. Similarly, many girls have succeeded in closing the bank account of guys, reduce their integrity because some guys are fools that all they care about is beauty, curves, shape and sex.
Stop falling in love, only fools fall in love. When you fall in love, you become blind to errors in relationship. Stand and delibrately walk into love and grow in it, and you should only do this when God has spoken to you about him/her not because of what you see or know about them...
to be continued...