20 ways to avoid sexual temptation

How can teens stay true to Jesus in the middle of a sex-crazed world?
God commands and demands that there shouldn't even be a hint of sexual immorality among us as His saved people (Ephesians 5:3). Of course, we all find this incredibly easy to do, right? WRONG!
This feels completely impossible most (maybe all) of the time. If there is one area of life where it feels like Satan is winning the battle, it’s in the area of sex.
And if there is one area where our bodies are screaming out to us to disobey God, it’s in the area of sex.
So I want to give you my top 20 tips to help you avoid sexual immorality:
1.Find out what pleases the Lord.
2.Find out what God’s will for your life is.
3. You need to be careful what you fill your minds with.
Imagination is often the hot-bed where sin is hatched. Martin Luther once said about sexual desires, “You can’t stop birds from flying over your head, but you can stop them from making nests in your hair.”
4.Pray (It is a spiritual battle too).
5.Don't put yourself in situations where you will be easily tempted.
6.Remember God is watching.
7.Talk about sex (accountability). You can't fight this alone. You need God's help and you need help from God's people too.
8.You are not alone. It can be helpful to know you are not the only person who has ever been tempted this way.
9.You CAN resist.
10.Know that God provides a way out
11.Count yourself dead to sin and alive to God
12.Remember the cross. Jesus died for our sins, including our sexual sins.
13.Remember Jesus is coming back. We will all have to give an account for our lives, even our sex life.
14.Memorise Scripture: use the word often,its a companion
15.Weariness and sadness often leads to sin. Learn to know yourself. Know when you are weak and susceptible to temptation.
16.Struggling is a good sign. Keep fighting and don't give in
17.Be careful what you wear. Modesty is good for you and good for others too.
18.Forgiveness is available. If you sin sexually you can still be forgiven, such is the power of the cross of Christ. So repent, turn back to God and live for Him..
19.Read some good books:You might find it a helpful guide for answering some of your questions about sex.
20.think about God

Without mincing words, masturbation is a sin

Masturbation is simply defined as “Manual stimulation of the genital organs (of yourself or another) for sexual pleasure.
Today, masturbation has gone to another level from hand stimulation to use of sex toys that were produced for that specific purpose.
A lot of folk are addicted to masturbation; they go to bed with dildos, vibrators, and the likes.
But is it true the New Testament never addressed the issue of masturbation because God wanted us to masturbate?
I don’t think so. As far as I am concerned, that is like saying, “the bible didn’t say we should not cook our rice with rat poison because he wanted us to commit suicide!
Now I am going to give you just one scripture. Let’s bear in mind that for one to masturbate:
There must be a thought process, a mental image of a man or woman or sex scene or sex pictures, which one focuses on, and then together with the manual stimulation, that brings one to an orgasm. This then means that for one to masturbate;
there has to be a mental undressing of the object/person in question, and a mental sexual experience!
Now here is what Jesus said:

But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart.
(Mat 5:28 KJV) - This knocks off masturbation completely. The process that leads to masturbation is what Jesus Christ equated with adultery in the heart! The message is clear! Without mincing words, masturbation is a sin.
A summary of how to stop it.
1. Get accountable to an authority figure you can always call when you sense trouble
2. Don't joke with reading God's word daily. That is where you draw strength from to be able to resist the devil.
3. Destroy every trigger. It could be films, literature, magazines or anything.
4. Make up your mind to stop.
5. Ask God to help you

Getting over Pornography......

Yes. Oh, sorry . . . I guess I need to write more.
Well, I guess I can explain it a little better.
Girls can usually see this issue for what it is. We guys, on the other hand, rationalize, make excuses, or are just simply too addicted to our lust to admit what is staring at us from the computer screen.
Pornography is cheating on your family, cheating on your spouse, and ultimately cheating on yourself.
I really believe that pornography is the 'silent killer' of our generation, stripping men (and a growing population of women) of their vitality and potency to become the men they're called to be.
We are all the 'walking wounded,' having been exposed to pornography in one way or another.
Pornography is inherently shameful because we know deep down that something extremely personal has become entertainment.
We guyz don't hide or check our surroundings when we try to sneak a peak of Home & Garden in the magazine rack at the store, or clear our online browsing history because we spent too much time looking at websites of fishing equipment.
And we've all heard the excuses:
'Nobody gets hurt.'
Very few men truly believe in the 'nobody gets hurt' excuse of pornography. Many men want to believe this, but deep down they know otherwise. Just ask any sister/girlfriend/spouse.
'It's healthy for me!'
re-wires the pleasure sensors of your brain and has been proven to be as addictive as heroin. 'She isn't a real person.' Yes, she is.
It's not that pornography shows too much of a person, but that it truly shows too little, and we men, who are called to be protectors of the dignity of the women in our lives, forego our mission for fleeting moments of pleasure.
Shame and self-centeredness inevitably follows the repetition of viewing pornography, and for a rapidly growing population of youth addiction and acting out what has been viewed on screen.
There's a wealth of articles and information online regarding the evils of pornography and how to overcome its snares, but I want to offer three tips that will work for u.
1. GET OVER YOURSELF.
The temptation to view pornography usually finds us in moments of inactivity, boredom, or indulgence, and it breeds a cycle of self-centeredness and self-pity that just leads to further porn viewing. Breaking the cycle usually means getting over yourself and going outside of yourself.
It's not enough to say 'no' to pornography we have to channel that energy towards something positive, and eventually, when moments of temptation stir up again,
we can recognize the destructive force that pornography is and can make a more life-giving choice.
2. ACCOUNTABILITY.
'As iron sharpens iron, so man sharpens his fellow man' (Proverbs 27:17) and we men cannot be lone rangers on this Christian journey and expect to rise to each challenge.
We need community. We need brotherhood.
Even just having a guy you trust to whom you can say, 'Hey man, it's been a rough week,' and knowing he won't judge but will support you, makes all the difference.
We guys know that looking at porn is shameful, but by bringing it into the light we cancel so much of its power over us. And if we need some stronger remedy, we have to be humble enough to seek professional help.
3. PRAYER.
Pray for the healing of those involved in the porn industry, especially all the women addicted to drugs, alcohol, and whatever else may be numbing their senses or imprisoning their hearts.
Nothing sobers you up like realizing that the woman in front of you is someone else's daughter.
Meditating on her tender femininity is a great antidote for the poison that pornography pushes into our veins. Mary will lead you in purity and lead you to her Son, and kick your butt in the process.
We have been created for real love and for real greatness. We have been made for both sacrifice and responsibility.
Let's stop cheating ourselves.