Except The Lord Builds: Ladies The Lord Needs Your Attentions Now!

Which any young lady does not go into marriage with the desire to be an excellent wife and to have a happy home? The dismal picture of many homes in our society, the disillusionment of many wives and the statistics of broken homes, however reveal that this desire does not always materialize.
The big question is why is it so? Why are homes not what God intended them to be?
“Every wise woman buildeth her house: but the foolish plucked it down with her hands.” (Proverbs 14:1).
It is clear that the quality of life in a home depends largely on the woman.
If many homes do not conform to God’s idea of a perfect home, it definitely not for want of effort on both sides.
Many women actually go into the building of their homes with all the zeal they have.
Within a few weeks of marriage, however they discover that home making is not as easy as they thought.
The problem of home management begins to mount as the babies begin to arrive.
The woman struggles with the tasks of keeping the home, organizing care for the children and giving her husband needed attention.
The stress and burden soon make her to become tense, frustrated and irritable. Of course, irritability and fellowship cannot co-exist.
So her husband and sometimes her children become alienated. The home becomes chaotic. The woman, in the midst of the confusion and tight unwritten work schedules forgets to take care of her physical appearance and spiritual state. Peace and joy become bywords.
This is exactly the state of Amaka’s home at present. In fact, that is exactly why she agreed to attend this woman conference. She listened with rapt attention as the preacher expounded on the life of the virtuous woman---her well-run home, her management skill, her care to every member of her household and the fact that she is the picture of perfect womanhood in appearance and conduct.
At this point, anger mounted in Amaka’s heart.
How can a woman accomplish all these? She thought “what kind of superhuman strength does she have? I have also worked hard at having a wonderful home. I put in all my effort and even read home management books but the result has been exhaustion, stress, frustration and unhappiness” When Amaka said she had put in all her effort into building her home, she hit at the main reason why she and many other wives have failed. They depended on their own efforts. But we know that….by strength shall no man prevail” (1 Samuel2:9).
It is true that the woman is an instrument for building a happy home, but that instrument must be wielded by God. “Except he LORD build the house, they labour in vain that build it: except the LORD keep the city, the watchman walked but in vain” (Psalm127:1) The solution to the problems of home building lies in finding God and putting Him first. If you turn to God and give him first place in your life, you will be amazed at home he will help you and bring about the transformation in your home, which for long you have sought. How He does this should not be a mystery, for He is the Almighty and All-sufficient. The power behind every service for God is taking time to seek God’s will through prayer and reading the Bible. And the Lord says: “I am the vine, ye are the branches; He that abideth in me and I in him, the same bringeth fourth much fruit: for without ye can do nothing” (John15:5). As you prayerfully study the word. He will reveal to you the wisdom, knowledge and understanding you need to build a successful home. You will learn that it is His work through you that will make the difference in your home. You will be surprises that He will help you even when those problems you think are trivial yet trampling. He will show you how to tackle the perpetual heap of dirty laundry, the disorganized kitchen and even how to bring smiles back to the faces of your husband and children. This was the secret of the woman of proverb 31. We did not read of her from a novel but from God’s Book of truth. She surrended her life to God and allowed Him to use her as an instrument for building her home. It is hope that Amaka and all other woman who are enduring the burden of an unhappy home and marriage, trying to build exclusively in their own strength will learn this secret. Pray now for yourself. If you are not saved, repent and turn to Gods. If you are, repent of your life and home will never remain the same. He is God. He cannot change (Hebrews13:8,Malachi3:6).